Ok, I'm guilty of it. I've said it and heard it even more.
Sometimes it's truth, sometimes it's just a polite way of saying; what you’re
offering or suggesting isn't really my thing. Sometimes it's a simple case of,
I have so much going on in my head I can't possibly fit another to do in, even
if it's really great.
Where all 'busy' doing this and doing that, running here and running there, sometimes
where just so busy being busy that we don't really achieve that much, except
that we say and feel like where busy all the time and ultimately just feel
exhausted. Phew; that big sentence felt exhausting just writing it.
Do you suffer from busyness, but don't really feel like you achieve that much.
If you do you’re not alone.
'Busyness' seems to be the accepted new norm. When we say (and feel) where busy
all the time it must mean where actually doing something purposeful and
contributing. Right?
Yet so many people are struggling; because they just feel so busy. So much to
do, everyone needs you to do something or see something or be somewhere. They
lack time, resources and solutions.
OK; Now is the perfect time to take a deep breath……
There are a number of simple things we can all easily do to solve many of our
time or busyness related problems. To ease our situations and struggles,
creating good positive long lasting changes but, you guessed it we say
"sounds great but I don't have time".
It always reminds me of Gabrielle Bernstein (founder of the spirit junkie) who
said in her book "Miracles now" when people tell her they don't have
time to meditate, pray or read something inspiring, her reply is; "do you have
time to feel like shit."
When you dedicate time to your personal growth and doing things that really
matter, you end up saving time because you’re not wasting time wallowing in
crappy feelings or exhausted from trying to please everyone.
There are many things we truly don't have time for; there are many things we shouldn't make time for. Including people that we should say no too, instead of complying with their wishes out of guilt or feeling like we'll let someone down or god forbid; look bad.
There's no rocket science here, just simple things to do to give you more time and free up some space in your mind. It's hard to think clearly when you've got a million and one things on your mental, mayhem to do list.
Deciding what we make time for, what we should make time is just another
positive part to living a happy life, an authentic life. A life where you get
to live as your true self. Free from the guilt and obligations we often impose
on ourselves.
So next time you say 'I don't have time, think about your answer.... Is it
because you genuinely have no interest in what's being offered or suggested. If
so I encourage you to be honest and simply state "thanks anyway but it's not
really my thing". That way you've just been authentic (it feels good) and the
person who asked won't (well shouldn't) ask again. If it's something that could
really enhance the quality of your life but means you may have to give up one
of your TV shows, or adjust your schedule I encourage you to think about the
long term outcome. Like; it will enhance the quality of your life and hey you
can always tape the show.
Take the time to do a time inventory, you’ll be surprised!
A few adjustments and your whole life will improve. Your relationships, health and day to day experiences.
It's always a choice and just a little bit of planning. OK and a little bit of time.
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