Do you ever look at certain people and think "man they've got it
Or I wish I was like that!
It's so easy to put people you admire, look up to or see in the spotlight, on a pedestal. To believe, think and convince yourself that they have it all together. "Life is surely perfect for them". They always look and sound so brilliant, professional, confident, calm or beautiful. Driving the best cars, living in beautiful homes, travelling and living the 'dream lifestyle'
How easy it is from a distance...
My thoughts travelled down that path often, many years ago, when I was still finding my way. I'd think how is it possible? My thinking would then lead to anger or self-pity; "It's not fair or I must just be hopeless". Back then my self-esteem was low and my doubts and self-criticisms were high. I'd actually get excited when I saw stars in magazines without make up, because it made me feel normal. Not to mention how many times I thought surely the highly spiritual and developed people I use to follow (in awe) would lose it once in a while. I often wished I could just ring Anthony Robbins, Marianne Williamson or Ghandi just to ask them, seeking confirmation that surely they must from time to time.
Our thoughts can lead us into an unnecessary ferocious battle. A fight between our very own worth and existence. Comparison leading the charge with full force and a big red flag. The only hope being a brief, mild, state of depression.
It can be very depressing, discouraging, and downright exhausting being in this mindset. Constantly comparing yourself and feeling less than. It can even happen closer to home with a family member or work college that just seems to have it all together. All their ducks lined up in a perfect row. You wonder how is it possible. Why can't I.......... (fill in the blank)
Facebook alone is often an unreal glimpse
into the seemingly perfect life.
Maybe this thought has never crossed your mind, and may I say AWESOME. But if it has, as it does for many, I truly know how deflating and discouraging it can be. Especially when you’re doing your best but continue to have moments (maybe a lot) that aren't so great. You curse, you stuff up, you lose it at someone, you get behind and you get tired. You have a bad day, week or month.
You wonder again and again, how is it possible to have it all together, all the time like............ (fill in your favourite mentor or guru).
I'm sure you know it doesn't have to be that way.
After years of reading, learning and personal development (long before my studies began) I realised that everyone has not so great moments. I didn't need to make the calls anymore to prove it. I didn't need to compare or wonder. I didn't need to feel less than or like a failure. I just had to be the best version of me as much as I could and accept myself for the unique human being I was.
Because the truth is even those that continually, read, learn and strive for improvement every day, teach and bring you the best advice and most helpful information and resources from years of experience: fall off the band wagon, get angry and tired. And have moments that..... well let's just say aren't so great. You just never (or rarely) see it.
Its ok, their still inspiring.
Because they absolutely and sincerely practise what they preach. If (when) they fall down they get back up and draw on all the resources and strength from the learning, experience and information they share.
And for those that aren't in the spotlight, just the people you know that seem to live a spectacular life, they too have their own battles. There either just very good at not showing it or they too apply the right tools and information to pick themselves back up again.
The more you nurture yourself, your personal development and spiritual growth the less
you experience these not so great moments and thoughts. The quicker you pick yourself up when you fall
off the band wagon. The less you compare yourself, beat yourself up and find yourself in the midst of another emotional battlefield ready to charge into the pitfalls of despair and
Self-acceptance and self-love being your first and greatest step.
We don't need to compare ourselves to anyone, if you’re going to compare - compare yourself with the person you were yesterday. Strive to be a better version of you.